What is it in adults that makes us continue to want to “fix” situations that we see are not right?
Think of parenting. If you have children, you have a default setting in your brain that evaluates what they are doing (or not doing) and it causes you to leap into action to “fix” the situation.
It’s easy to see how “fixing” becomes a habit. A muscle, large and effective, that we have used a thousand times. We KNOW we are good at getting things done correctly. We have experience; we know what works and what doesn’t work; we know what wastes time and resources.
But, in parenting, we also know that if we want our kids to grow up to be responsible adults, we need to hold our tongues, teach them a system and let them make a few mistakes so they learn the processes of life for themselves. Hard to do. Takes so much time! Easier to just do it for them.
There’s also the problem of removing our Ego from the situation. How much do we see our children as reflections of our own skills and abilities? “Will I look like a bad parent if my children make these mistakes?” How do we focus on less of “ME (as a great parent)” and more of “enabling THEM to flourish”? Equipping them to make evaluations, brainstorm solutions, make decisions, implement immediately.
That transition in the business world is also hard to do. Do you see the success of your Team first and foremost as a reflection of you? Are you still solving their problems? Or are you equipping them with the right tools, the right decision metrics, the right support and the patience and respect that growth requires?
It doesn’t just happen. It takes intention. Does your Team know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you have that growth intention for them? The truth is written in your calendar. Is their growth scheduled on your calendar?